Expectations can either make your life easier or build barriers depending on how you manage them. I have been working on this particular entry for a few days. This particular subject is confused in my own mind…maybe I had an expectation this blog would be something that it’s not…hmmm there’s a thought as well as a common theme.
Expectations can get in the way of our life experience if you let them. As human creatures we have the habit of plotting out exactly in our minds how something should be, not what it CAN be. We spend so much time trying to figure out what something should look like that sometimes we miss the experience. Why not let nature take its course? It’s a loss of control, and that freaks us all out. The problem with this behavior is you set yourself up for failure because you will never fully allow yourself the luxury of experimenting or going with the flow. We allow ourselves and our expectations to be controlled by other people or most times ourselves.
Example: I recently attended a job fair hosted by a local agency; unfortunately there were too few jobs and too many job seekers. This is a result of our economy…..it’s just reality. Due to the sheer volume of job seekers there was a line. The end result of this situation was many unhappy job seekers. Since there was a line and people waiting I figured it was as good as time as any to talk to people to see what they were thinking. I found out the real problem and you might be surprised at what I found out…it seemed that the lack of jobs wasn’t the issue. It was the fact that they didn’t know what to expect, the common expectation was that once they got inside the doors there would be the ideal job. I also found that many people didn’t know what the ideal job for them looked like. Then it was also the people who were leaving who were unhappy that got everyone in a tizzy.
What might have helped people get more out of this event was a little reconnaissance. Before any event job seekers can called the promoters and asked what companies were attending the event and what jobs would be available. That way the expectation of the event would be set and both parties could set up a realistic expectation. If you knew whey kind of jobs were going to be at an event then you would know if there would be a job that would fit your skill set.
My one and only point is set your expectation based on quality information, and give yourself the chance to experience life and what it has to offer and don’t be limited by expectation.
“Life is so constructed that an event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation.” Charlotte Bronte